Fidelity

When we talk about fidelity, things like faithfulness to a person and marriage with Christian vibes often come to mind. But this is just only one aspect of our understanding of fidelity.

Fidelity can also mean holding your intention to values and principles that deeply matter to you. Firm and unwavering; being loyal to them. It’s probably much healthier than being loyal to someone in some cases, especially if that person you’re loyal to is abusive and even more so if your fidelity is towards principles that are based on goodness, truth and justice.

One way you could get started on practising fidelity with yourself is to dedicate a section in your journal or any external medium (like my About Me page), where you could engage with your personal values and principles externally. You could have it in writing, illustrating with abstract visuals, or even have in on an audio recording.

If you’re not sure what your values are, try doing a Find Your Why exercise or a Personal Values Card Sort.

Having something external you can work enables you to interact which gives you the opportunity to make a commitment. Similar to how legal contracts work where different parties can interact with something external to agree upon certain terms.